Away from Home and Kids
Parents who have children may find it challenging whenever traveling for work or for a business trip. Regardless of whether it is for a weekend, for a month or longer than that, leaving your children alone is very difficult. Both the kid and the parent are affected. This article will talk about how you can prudently handle this situation for the good of both of you. One of the key tips that you should be aware of is when to let the child know about your upcoming trip. Factor in your kid’s maturity levels and how he or she can handle the news before you just blatantly tell her. Preschoolers and toddlers don’t figure out the concept of time and even some lower primary kids find it hard to differentiate days from weeks. Since most young children tend to be extremely anxious about their parents leaving, it is advisable to reduce the span of time you make them aware of your leaving so that the length of time to worry will be greatly reduced. For the older kids and teens, you can tell them at least three or four days before since they are more independent. However, once you realize that you have to leave instantly, ensure that you let your child know immediately and stay as calm as possible.
It is also advisable to tell your child what you will be doing and how he or she can reach you. The child should most importantly know when you will be back. Then you can teach him to cross out one day every day that passes and that the last day marked on the calendar is when you will be coming back. By use of location maps and photos, you can disclose to the child where you will be. For the older kids, you can just tell them the name of the place you will be. Kids like to be promised if they will be in safe hands while you are away. Make sure you discuss the place the child will stay when you are traveling. The normal routine of the child should be adhered to and not changed as it can disrupt the kid’s life. Let the babysitter know what is expected of her when you are away.
You can also leave short surprise notes at easy-to-find places such as favorite shoe. You can consider videotaping yourself as you read a goodnight message to the child so that the kid can always play the video before drifting into sleep. Some of the harsh goodbyes that can do more harm than good include sneaking away, acting anxiously, prolonging the departure or even showing how guilt you are. It is good to find out how your child is doing to ease your nerve as well as hers. However, you should not allow persistent calling or nagging as it can make it hard for you to attend to the responsibilities that took you away there. Make sure you believe the person you entrusted the care of the child to. On arriving from the trip, bring along something for your child as well as spend some time together giving hugs, kisses’ and catching up.